How do I get my parents to accept my sexuality?

Dear Doc

I'm 15, and I think I'm a lesbian. I told my parents when I was almost fourteen, and they refuse to accept it, saying it’s a 'phase'. I’ve had relationships with girls, and if I’m honest, the thought of doing anything 'intimate' with a boy is a real turn off. What shall I do to make them accept me?


Like you, many people will question their sexuality at some time in their life. And although people often take some time working it out, no one can know your sexuality more than you.

You have taken such a big step in trying to talk to your parents about this already. As well as demonstrating that you are a strong person, this also suggests that you have had a trusting relationship with them in the past. So it must have been really difficult when your parents’ reaction was not as positive as you might have wished.

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